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(听美乐赏美文)过度礼貌,其实是一种生疏

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过度礼貌,其实是一种生疏</span><br/>

<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-weight:normal;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">本文系漫心情原创 老兵综合网络制作配乐为古筝曲欣赏</span><br/>

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<p style="margin:0px auto;padding:9px 4px 14px;max-width:100%;box-sizing:border-box;clear:both;min-height:1em;border-top-left-radius:8px;border-top-right-radius:8px;border-bottom-right-radius:8px;border-bottom-left-radius:8px;border:4px solid rgb(255, 100, 80);text-align:center;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">礼貌,是一种基本的修养和素质;但是,过度的礼貌,就是一种对人的防备和生疏。过度的礼貌,会让人产生距离感,因为往往越亲的人,越是彼此之间无所顾忌、畅所欲言。</span><br/>
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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-weight:bold;font-family:微软雅黑;color:rgb(38, 38, 38)">过度礼貌--是拿对方不当自己人一般人,对待“自己人”,总是互相大大咧咧,看上去彼此没那么多讲究和礼貌,但是却让人觉得亲密无比。而不拿对方当自己人的人,总是会表现出过分的礼貌和客套。所谓客套话,就是两个不那么熟或者彼此不认同的人,才会互相你来我往、敷衍式地说的场面话。过度礼貌,是因为彼此还不太熟,没这么亲近,所以保持做人基本的客套和距离。一旦感觉对方和自己不是一路人,但还是秉着对对方的尊重,就会无意地过度礼貌起来。过度礼貌,是一种拿对方不当自己人的界限的划分,是和别人保持距离的一种委婉暗示。</span></span></p>
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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-weight:bold;font-family:微软雅黑;color:rgb(255, 0, 0)">过度礼貌是一种高冷的谦逊--有时候,过度礼貌,其实是一种高傲、冷漠的谦逊。因为不想对对方敞开心扉,所以保持高冷,用表面的谦逊来应付彼此的交往。过度礼貌,本质上其实不礼貌,心里的冷漠全部转化为不含热度的冰冷客套。其实,越是亲近的人,彼此之间越是不会客套。所有的过度礼貌,都是用来应对不想靠近但又不得不接触的人的无奈方法。虽然表面上对对方客气得很,但是打心底里其实还是很高冷,对待不打算继续深入接触的人,过度礼貌无可厚非。过度礼貌,是披着礼貌的外衣的高冷,谦逊的伪装背后实则是高傲的冷漠。过度礼貌是一种没有人情味和温度的礼貌,但凡稍微敏感的人都能体悟到这背后的生疏和不想靠近。</span></span></p>
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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-weight:bold;font-family:微软雅黑;color:rgb(38, 38, 38)">过度礼貌只会让彼此更加疏远--过度礼貌,其实有时候挺招人烦的。特别是如果其中一个人自认为彼此关系还不错,但是另一个人却无时无刻不表现出过度的礼貌,这就会造成伤害了——原来,我们之间的关系没有我想的那么亲近啊~我把你当作无话不说的好朋友,但是你却时刻防着我似的,对我没有这么热情,用冷冰冰的过度礼貌来对我,这样,只会让我们之间的心更加疏远。所有的亲密无间,都是从甩掉表面的客套开始。</span></span></p>
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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(0, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="font-size:24px;font-weight:bold;font-family:微软雅黑;color:rgb(255, 0, 0)">过度礼貌,其实根本上不是友善,而是有所防备和互相疏远。有时候,我们都希望彼此之间都摆脱敷衍的客套,放下冷冰冰的过度礼貌,就像家里人一样争吵打闹,真正变成无话不说的自己人。过度礼貌,已经让礼貌变了味。失去了人情味、冷冰冰的过度礼貌,实则是一种不想深交的疏远。过度礼貌,其实是因为对对方有所防备,不想和ta靠得太近,所以通过过度礼貌来划分界限,保持距离。有时候,我们很羡慕那些放下了过度礼貌的亲密无间,希望有一天也能得到这样暖心的陪伴。唯有互相敞开心扉,才能真正摆脱表面客套,进而彼此真心相待。愿每个人,都能找到那个能让你们放下过度礼貌的真心人。</span><br/>
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