老兵日志 发表于 2016-9-21 20:06

吵架也是一种沟通，别让吵架影响你们的感情

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">美国**学家、人际专家珍亚格强调，吵架时最好用第一人称表达观点，比如“我觉得你伤害到我了”、“我觉得你的意思是”等，强调这只是你的个人感受。</span></div>

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">冷嘲热讽、指桑骂槐，很难让对方了解你到底哪里不满意、想要做什么。要想解决争议，最好直接切入重点，明确说出你的想法。<br/>

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">不要拿隐私说事
<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">就算争吵很激烈，也要避免谈及对方的隐私，或一些私人问题。违背这一点，只会辜负和牺牲别人的信任，让你因小失大。</span>
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">给对方说话机会
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">解铃还须系铃人，给对方解释、理论的机会，并耐心倾听，才能发现双方意见不合的真正原因所在，一步步解开心结。<br/>

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">互相留点缓冲时间
<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">争吵最终是为了解决问题，而不是逞一时口舌之快。给彼此一点时间，好好思考和回应对方的意见和看法，进一步争吵才有意义。</span>
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">不中伤对方
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">指名道姓的谩骂和中伤，是最不明智的一种吵架方式，只会残忍地在对方心中留下长久的伤害，把简单问题复杂化。<br/>

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">不要摔东西或动拳脚
<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">不管有多生气，挥拳、吐口水、砸东西等行为，在吵架时必须绝对禁止，任何非言语的动作，只会让别人对你的印象越来越差。</span>
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">争吵时，记得提醒自己：意见分歧并不是谁对谁错的问题，只是看法不一致而已。认清了这一点，消除争端会变得容易很多。</span>
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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:36px;font-family:微软雅黑;font-weight:bold;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #262626,0 1px 4px #262626,0 -1px 4px #262626,-1px 0 4px #262626;filter:glow(color=#262626,strength=3)">不要闹得人尽皆知
<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:微软雅黑;display:inline-block;color:white;text-shadow:1px 0 4px #ff0000,0 1px 4px #ff0000,0 -1px 4px #ff0000,-1px 0 4px #ff0000;filter:glow(color=#ff0000,strength=3)">吵吵嚷嚷得让身边的人围观，只会让双方都难堪，导致关系恶化。哪怕真的剑拔弩张，也要找个“隐蔽”的地方。</span>
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岁月夕阳 发表于 2016-9-21 20:25

哈哈，俩口子的那些事……
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