老兵日志 发表于 2016-5-21 14:30

(名家刘墉美文欣赏)写给儿子的恋爱须知

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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">儿子:</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">现在就把这个文件下达给你是否早了,我很犹豫,可是又怕迟了,因为你已经18岁了。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">也许我是多事,可是不干涉你一下终究不甘心。尤其你的恋爱素质不够好:你脑子不笨,人颇讨喜,善交际,会说话,不固执。你又正好赶上了这个男女交往障碍不多的年代,我真担心你少年轻狂早早就败了胃口。不是我危言耸听,《恋爱须知》的宗旨,就是给你设障碍。这对至情至深的人来说是多余的,对于你,我却要试当一次愚蠢的教育家,希望能对你有所规范。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">一、</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">每一个令你真正动心的女孩,必有一点其他女孩不再会使你感觉到的极美之处,这一极美之处会在一个阶段里不由分说地主宰你,令你全身心地感动。所以它应该是你终身的神祇,即便分手也不可以亵渎它,否则就是亵渎了你自己的感情。如果你仅仅是对某个女孩感兴趣,却没有那种原子裂变似的反应,你不可去招惹人家。你可以等待,等待时间和机遇为你揭示这种兴趣的源头,爱与发现是紧紧相连的。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">二、</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">恋爱中无经验可言,无技巧可言。通向不同的对象,路径一定不同,你须潜心体验,小心分辨才能找到那条特殊的路。经验与技巧则会使你变得粗糙,它们只会越来越小心分辨才能找到那条特殊的路,它们只会越来越快地带你走至那世俗过程的尽头,而你的所求是那极美之处,是更为精致与奢侈的爱的享受。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">三、</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">经验和技巧还会使你有游戏感。游戏偶一为之,只要不自欺欺人,并确认双方都懂得游戏规则当然不是不可以。但是你须当心,感情游戏的花样是很有限的,一旦重复,自己无趣,且成为他人的笑柄,那真是偷鸡不成蚀把米了。更何况感情失贞的次数多了,喜怒哀乐不能保鲜,终究也都会走了味。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">四、</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">不要以为男人能追上女人、女人能迷住男人是什么了不起的事,这是这个世界上最容易成就的业绩,因为男女之间相互被吸引是人的本能。恋爱的成功只对自己有意义,对他人没有意义。把女孩当资本来炫耀,或当作趋附时尚的填充,都是一种商业行为。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">五、</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"></p>

<div style="text-align:center"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">敬重有年轮的感情,敬重有了沧桑有了倦意看似松弛而平淡的亲情。你慢慢会懂得它们的好处,并且慢慢会明白它们的厉害。如果你的爱,伤及女孩与她周围亲人的关系,你不可接受更不可要求她的牺牲。新鲜感情所取得的胜利从来都是暂时的———因为新的里面本来就没有多少“时”。</span></div>

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<div style="text-align:center"><span style="font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic;color:rgb(255, 0, 0)">六、</span></div>
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<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(12, 12, 12);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">有能力爱的人也不需要抢夺他人已经占领的地盘,人若争夺的也无非是你所爱之人身上那些世俗性的好处,你让掉就是。语言在真情的压迫下是没有表现能力的。甜言蜜语说得越顺嘴越有才气就越不可信任,但是人们往往迷恋语言带来的快感。你要慎用语言,有“涩”的感觉才是最高境界。</span></p>

<div><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-bottom:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;min-height:1em;white-space:pre-wrap;text-align:center;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important"><span style="margin:0px;padding:0px;max-width:100%;color:rgb(255, 0, 0);text-shadow:rgb(204, 193, 217) 2px 2px 10px;box-sizing:border-box !important;word-wrap:break-word !important;font-size:24px;font-family:仿宋, 仿宋_GB2312;font-weight:bold;font-style:italic">作者:刘墉,知名华人作家、画家,他的处世散文和温馨励志散文都深受华人喜爱,作品在大陆销售超过千万册,被称为“沟通青少年心灵的专业作家”。</span></p>

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