字里行间的温文尔雅

逸轩发表于 2015-5-23 23:51

本帖最后由逸轩于 2015-5-23 23:55 编辑 中国作为文明古国、礼仪之邦一直崇尚<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">君子之风。《礼记·仪礼》道：“言语之美，穆穆皇皇。”穆穆者，敬之和；皇皇者，正而美。就是说，对人说话要尊敬、和气，谈吐文雅不唐突。尤其是在书信礼仪这个问题上，古人以'<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">自谦敬人'为原则，字里行间，<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">揖让进退之态不仅依晰可见，而且显得更为<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">温文尔雅，彬彬有礼。学会写信是一种文化素质和个人涵养的最基本体现。
 
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我国的书信史源远流长，战国时期乐毅的<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">《报燕惠王书》、鲁仲连的<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">《遗燕将书》、李斯的<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">《谏逐客书》等，都已是传诵千古的名篇。但先秦两汉人写信，形式比较随便。至迟到魏晋时期，开始有人撰作'书仪'，就是各类书信的格式，以供他人写信时套用。迄今所知最早的书信格式，是晋代书法家索靖书写的<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">《月仪》。
我国的书信文化经过历代的传承和发展，大体形成了为**广泛认同的书信格式。虽然现实生活中，我们已经很少以书信的方式沟通，但是在公务信件往来中，尤其是撰写邀请函的时候，书信礼仪是否得体显得还是很重要。一封通常意义上的书信，至少要包含以下几个部分：<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">称谓语、提称语、思慕语、正文、祝愿语、署名。
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书信中的称谓语一般就是对对方的称呼语。在任何语言中，称谓语都担当着重要的社交礼仪作用。一般说来,称谓可分为亲属称谓和社交称谓两大类型。
1、亲属称谓，指的是以本人为中心确定亲族成员和本人关系的名称，如父母、伯、舅、哥、妹、姑、姨、哥、弟、嫂子、姐、姐夫等等。
2、社交称谓，包括大家、各位、诸位等代词称谓；先生、小姐、女士、夫人、殿下等社交称谓；部长、省长、司长、厅长、校长、院长、厂长、经理等职衔称谓；以及医生、护士、老师、会计、律师、教练等职业称谓，前面加上姓以示尊敬。
 
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书信一定要用称谓，首先要分清是父母、尊长，还是老师、朋友。称谓之后，一般要缀以对应的词语来表达敬意，例如台端、台甫等等，这类词语称为提称语。
提称语与称谓有对应的关系，其中有些可以通用，但大部分都有特定的使用对象。其中比较常用的有：
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于长辈：几前、尊前、尊鉴、赐鉴、尊右、道鉴
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于师长：函丈、坛席、讲座、尊鉴、道席、撰席、史席
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于平辈：足下、阁下、台鉴、大鉴、惠鉴
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于晚辈：如晤、如面、如握、青览
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给父母写信，“膝下”一词用得最多，源出出于《孝经》：“故亲生之膝下，以养父母日严。”是说人幼年时，时时依于父母膝旁，后来转为对父母的尊称。
“函丈”源出于《礼记-曲礼》，向尊长请教时，要“席间函丈”，意思是说，彼此的席位之间要空出一丈左右的地方，以便尊长有所指画；故用作对老师的尊称。
 
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书信的功能之一是沟通彼此情感，因此，在提称语之后不直接进入正文，而是要用简练的文句述说对对方的思念或者仰慕之情，这类文句称为思慕语。
思慕语中使用最多的，是从时令、气候切入来倾吐思念之情。由于有了意境的描述，读后令人倍感亲切。后世书信的思慕语相当丰富，不胜枚举，比较常用的如：
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 仰慕之情——
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问候病情——
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时令问候——
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祝贺之意——
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贺贺新婚——
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祝寿——
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">喜贺福寿双全，恭贺全家安好，寿星永照。
 贺生儿女——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">闻育祥麟，谨此恭贺。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">闻尊夫妇喜添千金，热忱致贺。(贺生女)
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">弄璋之喜，可庆可贺。(贺生子)
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致谢——
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">承蒙见教，获益甚多，特上寸笺，以申谢忱。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">承蒙惠赠各物，衷心感谢，不胜荣幸。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">承蒙存问，且赠佳品，感恩不尽。
 致歉——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">惠信敬悉，甚感盛情，迟复为歉。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">奉读惠信，久未作复，罪甚罪甚。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">惠信已悉，近因琐务，未即奉答为歉。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">所询之事，目前尚难奉复，敬请宽裕为怀。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">前事有逆尊意，不胜惭愧，万望海涵。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">前事有负雅意，十分抱歉，尚希恕之。
 
思慕语十分丰富，读者可以在阅读书信范文时留心摘录，以供自己习用。最好是提高文学素养，用自己的语言来描述真实的情感。
 
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(255,255,255); PADDING-TOP: 0px"><span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; BACKGROUND-COLOR: rgb(192,80,77); MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; PADDING-TOP: 0px">祝愿语及署名敬词
两人见面后，即将分别之时，应该互道珍重。祝愿词的主题，是希望对方幸福、平安。这一礼节表现在书信中，就是祝愿语和署名启禀词。由于辈份、性别、职业的差别，祝愿词也有比较严格的区别，比较常用的有：
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于父母：恭请福安。叩请金安。敬叩禔安。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于长辈：恭请崇安。敬请福祉。敬颂颐安。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于师长：敬请教安。敬请教祺。敬颂诲安。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于平辈：顺祝时绥。即问近安。敬祝春祺。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于同学：即颂文祺。顺颂台安。恭候刻安。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">用于女性：敬颂绣安。即祝壼安。恭请懿安。
旧式书信在落款之后，一般还要根据彼此关系写敬词（或称启禀词），例如：
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鲁迅手札
 
此外我们还可以看看鲁迅写给母亲的信和毛泽东写给老师的信，可以体会出中国传统礼仪的魅力所在。
 
鲁迅致母亲的信：
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">日前寄上海婴照片一张，想已收到。小包一个，今天收到了。酱鸭、酱肉，昨起白花，蒸过之后，味仍不坏；只有鸡腰是不能吃了。其余的东西，都好的。下午已分了一份给老三去。但其中的一种粉，无人认识，亦不知吃法，下次信中，乞示知。上海一向很暖，昨天发风，才冷了起来，但房中亦尚有五十余度。寓内大小俱安，请勿念为要。海婴有几句话，写在另一张纸上，今附呈。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">　　专此布达，恭请
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毛泽东致老师符定一(澄宇)先生的信：
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">　　肃此。敬颂
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毛泽东手札
 
另外，正文中古人的礼貌语言还表现在：凡是说到与对方有关的行为、人物、事情、物品时，大都要使用尊敬、委婉的说法，例如：
 对人尊称——
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">令堂：尊称对方的母亲。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">令郎(令子、令嗣)：尊称对方的儿子。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">令爱(令媛)：尊称对方的女儿。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">令正(贤阁、尊夫人)：尊称对方的妻子。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">贤契：称自己的学生。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">高足：称别人的学生。
 
自己谦称——
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">家母（家慈）：称自己的母亲。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">家兄、家姐：称自己的兄姐。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">舍弟、舍妹：称自己的弟妹。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">内人(内子、内助、拙荆)：称自己的妻子。 
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">外子：称自己的丈夫。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">犬子（豚子、犬儿、小子）：称自己的儿子。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">小女：称自己的女儿。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">敝友：称自己的朋友。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">鄙人、小弟、愚、愚弟、卑职：我
　　
常用敬语——
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<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">高见(高论)：称对方的看法，见解。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">高寿(高龄)：用于问老年人的年龄。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">尊府(府上、尊寓、华居)：称对方的住处。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">拜望：探望。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">雅正：把自己的诗文、书画、作品赠人时用此辞，表示请对方指教。 
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">斧正(指正)：请人对自己的诗文、书画、作品加以修改、指教。
 
古汉语中还有一类很突出的词，叫“谦敬副词”。例如“<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">蒙、窃、幸、辱、敬、惠、谨”等等。这些谦敬副词，和上面所谈的尊称、谦称以及委婉语、讳饰语等等，都是我国古代的礼貌语言，体现了我国古代语言美的优良传统。 
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 常用客气语——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">恕：请求别人谅解，不要计较。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">有劳：用于拜托或答谢对方帮助做事。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">相扰：打扰。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">难为：感谢对方的帮助。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">劳神：耗费精神。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px"><span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">失敬：责备自己礼貌不周。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px"><span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">失礼：自己感到礼貌不周。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">失陪：表示因故而不能陪伴别人。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">留步：请等一等或不必再送行。
　　
赠物答谢—— 
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">奉呈薄资，尚望笑纳为幸。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">所奉××虽微不足道，但物轻情意重，望勿嫌弃。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">千里鹅毛，聊表寸心。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">微物奉上，聊祝吉安，幸祈笑纳。
 
请求赐教——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">风雨同舟，愿闻明教。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">倘蒙见教，没齿不忘。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">倘承不吝赐教，幸甚幸甚。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">得暇望时赐教言为祷。 
 
商量探讨——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">愚直之言，尚祈嘉纳。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">蒙雅爱，沥胆直谏。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">相见以诚，请恕不谦。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">吾敬先生，尤爱真理，故秉笔直陈，希原谅之为祷。 
 
有事拜托—— 
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">冒味唐突干请，惟望幸许。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">拜托之处，乞费神代办，不胜感荷。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">谨布区区，尚希鉴明，费神相助。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">所恳之事，若蒙慨允，将不胜感激之至。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">乞赐……，以志厚谊。
 
结束语——
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">临书仓促，不尽欲言。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">日来事冗，恕不多叙。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">书不尽意，余言后续。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">草率书此，祈恕不恭。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">驰函寓意，伫望示复。
<span style="BOX-SIZING: border-box !important; PADDING-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN: 0px; PADDING-LEFT: 0px; PADDING-RIGHT: 0px; MAX-WIDTH: 100%; WORD-WRAP: break-word !important; COLOR: rgb(75,172,198); PADDING-TOP: 0px">忙中即书，言不由衷，不足之处，还望见谅。
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